Welcome Sarah ... good to hear a little about your two faith communities.
Addressing your Questions, 2 thoughts initially. 1. Most women seem to be waiting for "permission" from someone to lead. This takes a variety of linguistic forms ... "I need a covering ... I'm waiting to be asked ... I'm waiting for God to open the door ... I'm hoping someone in (male) leadership recognized my giftings and/or call... etc., etc., etc.! I argue, if you are called by God, then you have PERMISSION and the best COVERING you're ever gonna get! Why have women allowed man's made up rules to take precedent over God's established egalitarian call?
2. The "wall" in front and the "stained glass ceiling above" that has been firmly entrenched by a Western, modern, enlightenment influenced, colonial, male saturated and dominated "church" for over at least 400 years now is not going away anytime soon. I argue for beginning ministries a fresh by working collegially together. Birth new works of ministry, ones that are creatively fresh and distinictively non-hierarchical. We have the potential to be bodacious faith entrepreneurs of the 21st century! :-)
My Q 2 U: Who "pastors" your two faith communities?