I was one of the ones taking part in that discussion at the Blind Beggar. I didn't mean to ditch the discussion; I had to take an online break, including killing off my own blog. The 'net can be an incredible timesuck, can't it? And I have issues with self-control.
I thought I'd come here and share my original concerns after hearing that you all were talking about it. Here is what I said at Blind Beggar's place:
Hi Julie–yes, thanks for being gracious.
I’m sorry that I don’t find language and grammar petty. I’m on a journey to define my faith, and there is nothing more important. I cannot learn from someone who can’t even be bothered to spell correctly. I don’t read Greek or Hebrew, and am relying on others for insight, and if they can’t get the English correct, well, it does color my opinion.
Also, I believe there are many women on the same journey I am, and the Emergent church appeals to us. In taking on the title Emerging Women, you have assumed a huge responsibility, whether you meant to or not. It is going to be the first place a lot of women go to for information about emerging/emergent ideas. Titling a post “Butt Sex” is offensive, and would be a slap in the face to many conservative women. Is this really the image you want to project?
I’m not some shrinking violet, but I do feel somewhat protective of the more sheltered ladies I’ve met online. Some of these are women looking to escape patriarchal influences, and again, your site may be the first they come across. I just think you need to be a little more careful.
As far as the English language thing, I'm not talking about an occasional slip-up. I'm talking about absolutely not caring about grammar, and as I said, it is important. If I'm looking for an intellectual discussion with someone about something as important as my faith, I at least have to know that she can spell the word.
I was, however, spoiled by being a long-term participant in a forum where I felt like the dumbest member. No one ever misspelled or made grammatical errors.
However, there was an edit function in the comments. So if I posted something and realized I'd made a mistake, I could fix it.
Anyway, as far as not feeling welcome here, well, I didn't, and I believe it's because I first posted on a political topic, and I'm conservative by nature. The replies I got, I felt, did not consider my position. They just wanted to tell me how wrong I was.
I was not the one talking about motherhood, but I read the conversation in question, and yes, it shocked me, how seeking God's will for such an important decision was completely a non-issue. The majority of the comments never even mentioned seeking Him and what He would have us do.
In fact, I find very little of Christ at all when I scroll through that discussion. Frankly, what comes across is a whole lot of me, me, me and what's best for me.
As far as the butt sex post, I think homosexuality is an issue that needs discussed. I took offense to the title of the post, not the content. I don't see the need to be so offensive, especially when, as I said, this board may be the first place conservative women seeking to escape patriarchy land, and I guarantee you that one read of that would have them clicking off and running for the hair covering they left upstairs.
I don't mean to cause contention. I'm a reasonable and fairly open-minded person. Y'all asked, and I answered.