Well many know my personality, so here comes my sarcasm...
Good question! To warn you ahead of time the part about womanhood I hate...is fueling this answer (ie. a long night with horrible PMS)! LOL
I am still on this journey to what "I" am as a woman. The first part of the journey being taught, as some said, that I was created to mother, and be a good wife; a helpmate. The longer I go down the road, I want to be me, and am not ok with that box I was taught. My problem is I personally can be all over the charts. I have typically gotten along with men better than women most of my life. I have a hard time in friendships with women, however being married and many of my friends being from church, this can cause some problems. So I have found that even though I would rather talk to many of my male friends, many times I don't, for fear of "how that looks".
My interests also wave all over. I love discussing my current readings (i.e.. bible scholarship or borderline personality disorder), but many of the women I know aren't interested in those things. I am a huge poker player. I play in a game online, or with friends almost daily. I love the competition and strategy that goes into play. Many days I have my hair in a pony and live in flip flops. Shopping to me is ordering out of a catalog or online a few times a year. I love to camp, live at the drag races with my husband, and spend half my life watching all kinds of TV.
On the other hand, I like to cross-stitch and in the past, did a great deal of scrap booking. I usually wear makeup, keep up my nails, and I am very chatty (surprise), but I hear people, am more observant than I think people realize, and have a great deal of empathy and grace for people (much to my own dismay many times-it can bite me). I am a card sender, people are in my thoughts a lot, and I like to make sure people know I care. (Do unto others...right??)
In my current state, I am frustrated. I have some situations that I am trying to be open and honest about (i.e. work related), but sometimes my perception is that the rules are different for the men then the women. For example we extend overwhelming grace for men "in hard times of their life", but when we get emotional or it's hard for us...many of them don't like to deal with it...we just need to get over it! (and to you wonderful guys who are reading this...not you LOL...you're wonderful!)
I try not to hold things against people as I believe they do what they know...but it feels like many times speaking from my perception (or from a woman's perception) can feel like beating my head against the wall. I recently had a "emotional" discussion at a meeting for work. Unfortunately, (and I hate that I can't control this) I teared up more than a few times! (Mainly because it was THE day in my month where I can not NOT cry!) However, I am sad, frustrated, pissed off, irritated, etc. about many things within this situation...and yet I walked away "feeling" condescended to, not really heard (or maybe heard, but feeling it's unimportant), and well like I was just another "crazy, bitchy woman" with issues. However, in this particular instance, I know things (or should I say have heard things) that I am sure I am not supposed to know. SOOO, it is tough, because the indirect issue to my frustration are things I can't be honest about (things that have affected my respect and trust). The direct though is that I am being as honest as I feel I can because I care and want to see change. But, in this world, I am answering to men that have completely different personalities than my own. The only thing that makes me not feel crazy is that other men in this situation have expressed similar problems, irritations etc., I just don't know if they are saying anything. And even though I know our approach to the situation is different, the woman I share my job with feels the same way, she just isn't as open or "confrontational" as I am.
So for me there is always the fine line between what is a "woman" battle and what is a "personality" battle.
I hope to come to a place eventually where I can choose my battles better. There are many places where I think we need to stand for women...there is still a long road ahead in many areas, and being hopeful and grateful for where we have come. My hope is that people will try to see the whole picture of me (not just as a woman), but every aspect of me. The good and the bad. I may annoy the crap out of you, but I am a very loyal, loving, caring, smart, organized, strong human being, with a lot to offer this world.
Finally, back to the main question, what makes me a woman is obviously different in many ways than others, but we are the same in many things. There are things that "typically" are unique to women such as giving birth etc. We contribute to the world in wonderful ways, however, many times aren't acknowledged in the same way as men. I am still finding my womanhood...and hopefully, will continue to grow in my own skin. I want to be the woman I can be, and not the woman that people "expected" me to be. I don't want to be in a box, or disrespected because I have PMS moments. I long to be where some of you seem to be; comfortable in your womanhood, and confident in the face of oppressive situations. I love hearing about the journey's you have been on. It can be helpful and inspiring.