With a new awareness, both painful and humorous, I begin to understand why the saints were rarely married women. I am convinced it has nothing to do, as I once supposed, with chastity or children. It has to do primarily with distractions. The bearing, rearing, feeding and educating of children; the running of a house with its thousand details; human relationships with their myriad pull -- woman's normal occupations in general run counter to creative life, or contemplative life, or saintly life. The problem is not merely one of Woman and Career, Woman and the Home, Woman and Independence. It is more basically: how to remain whole in the midst of the distractions of life; how to remain balanced, no matter what centrifugal forces tend to pull one off center; how to remain strong, no matter what shocks come in at the periphery and tend to crack the hub of the wheel.
Her writing reminds me that life has been complicated and messy for women far longer than twenty years ago, when I became one myself.
I'm wondering if and how this quote connects with your experience. If it connects, what do you personally do to "remain whole in the midst of the distractions of life?" Do you practice any kind of solitude? If so, what kind?
Labels: Gender Issues, Quotes
I love this book!
I've always had an issue with only the 'religious' or women who chose to live with their husbands as 'brother and sister' becoming saints.
It's too blimmin' easy. And the women - and men - becoming saints *aren't* whole, b/c those the Catholic Church chooses as saints are struggling to transcend life, not engage with it.
As Anne Morrow Lindbergh points out, life and love are complicated. But I disagree with her: I think this messiness drives us *towards* wholeness, not away from it, in the lessons that we learn and the depth they give us. At the time, it feels like it is driving us away from wholeness, but we're just looking at the individual thread, not the tapestry. After all, chaos came before creation.
And the real saints aren't those who choose to 'give up' the earthly life, but those who make the choice day after day to remain open to life and love and what it brings them, even when it brings great pain, as it will. That is true courage.
Ixx