Soldiermom ... glad we connected! I have a son that is a soldier too!
I'll suggest that there's not only plan A and B, but C, D, and E ... etc.
In fact, my life has proved God infinitely creative with all my "interesting" choices that I have engaged Him in!(In fact, God could be on the second time around the alphabet!) He has been graciously accomodating CEO, an infinitely patient parent, and quite a 'dance partner' in it all. Yes, He has sat some of my "dance choices" out, I'm sure of it. But, He has never left the dance floor either!
I see many evidences of this with my ancient, biblical, O.T. family. I'll suggest one of them: When Abram wanders into Egypt looking for food, he looks out for No.1(himself) and pulls a fast one by selling off his wife as his sister, lucks out by getting her back, reaps a great booty at her expense and leaves a very rich man, albiet still clueless as to where to plant himself and his touring clan. I suggest this little detour wasn't in God's "plan A" !! God's voice/endorsement/rebuke is nowhere to be found in this escapade. (I'll suggest that Sarai was pretty darn glad this wasn't plan A too!! Although .... I'm not sure she wasn't glad for a hot palace bath and some enuch pampering after wandering aimlessly around the desert with her half/brother/husband for who knows how long!)
I think God is being, like you suggested, an excellent parent, letting them figure this out! And, sure enough ... a bunch of 'verses' later, representing some more wandering of the Abram clan, finally Abram goes a lookin' for God ... calling on His name!
Gosh ... Father Abraham and I have a lot in common!